Interview with Author D.G. Kaye!

INTERVIEW WITH AUTHOR D.G. KAYE!

Please help me welcome author D.G. Kaye to Jemsbooks Blog Segment, Interview an Author. Debby is a wonderful online friend of mine whose friendship I cherish.

Thank you so much for inviting me over here today Janice, what a treat!

It’s wonderful to have you here, Debby. It’s been a long time in coming.

Please tell us something about yourself.

I’m a Canadian nonfiction/ memoir writer with 6 books under my belt and hoping to finish my 7th before this year runs away on me. All my books offer life lessons from my perspective and my own experiences. I liken myself to the Phoenix who rose above adversity from a dysfunctional childhood, a narcissistic mother, zero self-esteem and once upon a time, an extremely abusive relationship. I like to think by sharing my stories I can empower others.

I live in Toronto, born and bred. I also run my blog, which is an eclectic mash of memoir stories, articles about writing and self-publishing, book reviews, author interviews, and my occasional rant on injustices I come across. I’m also part of the Sisters of the Fey blog with 7 other authors where we share our views and knowledge about the spirituaI realm. I’m an empath and believe in angels. I also write a travel column for Sally Cronin’s Smorgasbord Invitation.

I probably should have been an investigative journalist because I’m a great sleuth when it comes to research. But I’m afraid I missed the boat on that one. I loveeeee to travel and socialize. And you’ll always find me fighting for the underdog.

Jjspina: You are an amazing woman, Debby. Out of the ashes you rose triumphant and better than ever.

When did you know that you wanted to be an author?

Now that’s a good question. I’m not sure I ever really aspired to be an author. A writer yes, as I’ve been writing since childhood, but an author was a far away dream for me. In my twenties, I began devouring books and only wondered if I’d ever gain the courage to write a book. But the years and decades passed. I wrote in journals to document the craziness in my life and later submitted a few articles to some local magazines. As my journals grew through the years and my emotional battle with my mother escalated, I began to feel the need to compile some of my stories and so I wrote my first book. Conflicted Hearts – a memoir about how growing up with a narcissistic mother affected my childhood right through to adulthood.

Jjspina: It was a good thing that you did document your life. It made a fantastic book and must have been cathartic for you to release all that angst.

How do you come up with ideas for your stories?

I think I’ve been lucky in that department because I’ve never really sat down and said, “Okay, I want to write a book, what should I write about?” Often, I’ll be doing something unrelated to writing when I get an inspiration to write on a topic. My first book, Conflicted Hearts, I knew was going to be written from the journals I kept. My 5th book I published – P.S. I Forgive You, I knew I had to write that somewhat of a sequel to an unfinished story of Conflicted Hearts, but I also knew I couldn’t write that book until my mother died. I began writing it only a few months before she died as I struggled with breaking ‘no contact’ after 7 years of finally breaking free from her hold on me.

My 3rd book. Words We Carry, is a nonfiction/memoir. I often write in a crossover of both. In that book I share stories about building self-esteem and talk about healthy and toxic relationships.

Menowhat? A Memoir was sparked by one silly night of joking around with my bestie as we compared notes on how menopause was wreaking havoc on all our body parts. We were laughing hysterically as each of us tried to one-up each other with hilarious scenarios about who had it worse. I summed up our conversation by saying, “You can’t even make this shyteup” and decided I should write about it. Ladies who have ‘been there, done that’ can relate, and hopefully find the humor in it. Surprisingly, that book gained quite a few male readers who were curious to learn what their partner’s craziness was all about. LOL.

My book, Have Bags, Will Travel, was a fun write recounting some of my more humorous escapes and learning lessons on travel. And my latest book, Twenty Years: After “I Do” was inspired by my  wanting to write a tribute to my marriage on how to keep a marriage alive and thriving when life throws curve balls.

jjspina: You have some powerful books, Debby. I look forward to reading your latest one. It coming up on my TBR list soon.

What projects are you currently working on?

Since I began publishing, I’ve put out 1-2 books a year, but last year was a chaotic year right up until this past winter. I told myself I wanted to take a year off from book writing. I had lost my book writing mojo temporarily, but thankfully, it’s come back to me recently. Currently, I’m ‘turtling’ along with my next book, inspired by another conversation with a friend about how menopause has sentenced some of our parts to becoming almost unrecognizable after it’s done with us. Again, I’m aiming for humor with many relatable issues, lol. Hey, what can we do right? Sometimes you just gotta laugh! I’m nowhere near finished writing that book but the title is clear – The Change After the Change.

Jjspina: I’m sure it will be fabulous as all the others. 

What is your target audience for your book? 

That’s an interesting question, Janice. Initially, I thought I was writing for a mature female audience. As it turned out. It seems many younger women enjoy my books and surprisingly, quite a few males. I admit, writing personal things about ‘women parts’ was intimidating for me after discovering that men were reading my books too. But I was enlightened by this and happy to learn that men wanted to try and understand what women went through with the mystifying menopause and are also eager to learn more about relationship issues from reading my books.            

Jjspina: I hope those male readers learned something helpful in understanding women. Lol! 

What advice would you give prospective authors? 

Write for the love of writing. Write because it’s your passion. Don’t go into publishing thinking your book is going to be a bestseller and you’re going to get rich because it probably won’t and you probably won’t. Write and build a platform of followers and readers by opening a blog and engaging with readers. Post engaging articles on your blogs and on social media. Build your tribe and have them waiting and wanting to read that first book you publish, and then continue writing and engaging. If we have any aspirations of fame or fortune, with a little luck and a lot of social interaction, we can establish a presence for both ourselves and our books.

jjspina: Wonderful advice, Debby. 

If you could have one wish, what would it be?

I could think of many wishes, but my only wish is for good health. Without it absolutely nothing else would matter. All the money in the world cannot buy health.

Jjspina: That is so true, Debby. I wish that for you, my friend.

What would you do if you were not a writer? 

I can’t even imagine life without writing. I’ve been writing since I was 6 years old. I suppose if I couldn’t write I’d probably be blabbing a lot more and spending way more money on socializing and shopping (my weakness). The extrovert in me thrives on communication so if I can’t write, I’m going to tell you what’s in my head anyway.

Jjspina: I believe you would be productive either way. Lol!

Thank you again Janice for inviting me over to share a bit about myself here on your beautiful blog. 😊

It was my pleasure, Debby. I enjoyed learning more about you and your fabulous books.

Conflicted Hearts

“Somehow I believed it was my obligation to try to do the right thing by her because she had given birth to me.”

Conflicted Hearts is a heartfelt journey of self-discovery and acceptance, an exploration of the quest for solace from emotional guilt.

P.S. I Forgive You

“I hurt for her. She wasn’t much of a mother, but she was still my mother.”

After struggling for decades to break free, Kaye has severed the unhealthy ties that bound her to her dominating mother—but now Kaye battles new confliction, as the guilt she harbors over her decision only increases as the end of her mother’s life draws near.

Twenty Years: After “I Do”

Twenty years began with a promise. As Kaye recounts what transpired within that time, she shows that true love has no limits, even when one spouse ages ahead of the other.

Words We Carry

“I have been a great critic of myself for most of my life, and I was darned good at it, deflating my own ego without the help of anyone else.”

Words We Carry is a raw, personal accounting of how the author overcame the demons of low self-esteem with the determination to learn to love herself.

MenoWhat? A Memoir

“I often found myself drifting from a state of normal in a sudden twist of bitchiness.”

From PMS to menopause to what the hell?

Join D.G. on her meno-journey to slay the dragons of menopause as she tries to hold on to her sanity, memory, hair, and so much more.

Have Bags, Will Travel

In her quest to keep from tipping the scales, D.G. strives to devise new tricks to fit everything in her suitcases on each trip. Why is she consistently a target for Canada customs on her return journeys?

Click on these links to visit D.G. Kayes books:

Conflicted Hearts

P.S. I Forgive you

Twenty Years: After “I Do”

Words We Carry

MenoWhat? A Memoir

Have Bags, Will Travel

D.G. Kaye’s Bio:

Debby Gies is a Canadian nonfiction/memoir author who writes under the pen name of D.G. Kaye. She was born, raised, and resides in Toronto, Canada. Kaye writes about her life experiences, matters of the heart and women’s issues.

D.G. writes to inspire others. Her writing encompasses stories taken from events she encountered in her own life, and she shares the lessons taken from them. Her sunny outlook on life developed from learning to overcome challenges in her life, and finding the upside from those situations, while practicing gratitude for all the positives.

When Kaye isn’t writing intimate memoirs, she brings her natural sense of humor into her other works. She loves to laugh and self- medicate with a daily dose of humor.

Please feel free to connect with D.G. Kaye on social media and any of my author and blog pages at:

www.dgkayewriter.com

www.goodreads.com/dgkaye

www.amazon.com/author/dgkaye7

www.twitter.com/@pokercubster (Of course there’s a story to this name!)

www.facebook.com/dgkaye

www.about.me/d.g.kaye.writer

www.linkedin.com/in/DGKaye7

www.google.com/debbydgkayegies

www.instagram.com/dgkaye

www.pinterest.com/dgkaye7

Come join our Literary Diva’s Library Facebook group for writers and authors.

I read a few of D.G. Kaye’s books and thoroughly enjoyed them. Here are two of my reviews.

A Heart-wrenching Decision to Forgive!

on January 6, 2017.  5 stars *****

Format: Kindle Edition|Verified Purchase

P.S. I Forgive You: A Broken Legacy is a journal of a rollercoaster of emotions displayed by this author as she deals with a narcissistic mother. This is a journey through life to survive without love and care from a mother who was incapable of loving anyone but herself.

The author opens her heart to the reader as her emotions pour out. She does all she can to make amends but to no avail and is forced to forgive her unfeeling mother and repair the damage done to her and her siblings.

This book is a catharsis to anyone who has had to live with this kind of parent. It helps them deal with the myriad of emotions that continue to bubble up inside and threaten to suffocate oneself.

My heart goes out to this child and her siblings who somehow managed to be strong and resilient even though they were never taught the essentials of parenting and the love that is needed to bring up a child. The author has shown remarkable strength and courage to face head-on the torments that continually threaten her very soul. I recommend this book to anyone who has yet to feel closure from an unhealthy relationship.

A Story of Courage and Resilience!

on November 20, 2016 5 Stars *****

Format: Kindle Edition|Verified Purchase

Conflicted Hearts is a story of an amazing woman who had to endure hardships throughout her life beginning with a heartless mother. As a young child she learned how to survive and make her way without her mother’s love.

This author poured out her heart in a cathartic way in order to deal with telling her story. She has faced adversity, serious illness both herself and her husband’s and somehow came out stronger.

Reading this book has been an eye opener for me. We all have to deal with our own demons and disappointments in life but it is how we handle them and come out on top, stronger and more resilient is what matters. I would highly recommend this book!

Thank you, readers, for stopping by to read about this talented author. Please check out her fabulous books on the above links and follow her on social media.

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Janice

About jjspina

Janice is an award-winning author with eleven children's books for PS-Gr 4, six middle-grade/preteen/young adult books, written under Janice Spina, and three novels, and a short story collection written under J.E. Spina. She is also a writer of poetry, blogger, avid reader, reviewer and a copy editor. Janice has always loved writing and started very young writing poetry, then stories. Her children's book, Lamby the Lonely Lamby, won a Silver Medal in the Mom's Choice Awards. Book 1, Davey & Derek Junior Detectives, The Case of the Missing Cell Phone, won the Pinnacle Book Achievement Award and Honorable Mention from Readers' Favorite Book Awards. Book 2, Davey & Derek Junior Detectives Series, The Case of the Mysterious Black Cat, won the Pinnacle Book Achievement Award and so did Book 3, The Case of the Magical Ivory Elephant, Davey & Derek Junior Detectives Series. Jerry the Crabby Crayfish, Broose the Moose on the loose, Colby the Courageous Cat, Book 5, Davey & Derek Junior Detectives, The Case of the Sad Mischievous Ghost, and Jeffrey the Jittery Giraffe, all won Pinnacle Book Achievement Awards. Book 5 of Davey & Derek also won a Silver Medal from Authorsdb Cover Contest. Hunting Mariah was a Finalist in Authorsdb First Lines Contest. All Janice's books are available on Amazon.com, Kindle, B&N and other online book sites. One of her sports' poems was published in The Lawrence Eagle Tribune in October of 2008. She is currently working on Book 2 of Abby & Holly series for girls, a fairy tale and Book 6 of Davey & Derek Junior Detectives Series. A YA fantasy series will be coming in 2019 along with more children's books. Her hobbies are crocheting, walking to keep fit, hula hooping, going to the movies with her husband, and spending time with her five grandchildren. Janice loves to hear from readers and appreciates reviews. Sign up on her blog https://jemsbooks.wordpress.com for a copy of her newsletters under Contact Me. She lives in New Hampshire with her husband who is her illustrator and cover creator.
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187 Responses to Interview with Author D.G. Kaye!

  1. Debby’s books are always entertaining and written with true insight. The menopause book was indeed hilarious, but funnily enough I feel so much better being post menopausal than I ever did beforehand!

  2. Reblogged this on Stevie Turner and commented:
    If you haven’t read any of D.G Kaye’s non-fiction/memoir books, now is the time to do so! She writes with true insight into issues such as family relationships, menopause, and marriage.

  3. Darlene says:

    Debby is an amazing individual and author!! She tackles subjects many of us would shy away from. This is a great interview.

  4. Adele Marie says:

    A great interview. xxx

  5. Mae Clair says:

    Lovely to see this interview with Debby. I didn’t realize how many books she had to her name. That’s awesome–though I do imagine quite a few were hard to write. It also clicked with me to me another empath and one who loves shopping! 🙂

    All the best, Debby and Janice!

  6. Mary Smith says:

    Great interview – thanks, both. I’m sure the next book will be fascinating – and soemting lots of men should probably read 🙂

  7. Wonderful interview and i’m looking to reading two of Debby’s books that are on my kindle. 🙂

  8. dgkaye says:

    Janice thank you soooo much for inviting me over. It was a pleasure to share some of myself here on your beautiful blog and you are the hostess with the mostess my friend. ❤
    Sorry I was late coming by, it's been one of those days that glitches and craziness eats up the hours. I'll be back to check on more wonderful comments. And I will reblog this next week. ❤ Hugs and thanks again. xoxo 🙂

  9. Vashti Q says:

    Hi Janice! Great interview! It’s always fun learning more about Debby and her books. I’m reading one of her books right now and enjoying it. All the best! ❤ xx

  10. What a great interview. Always fun to learn new stuff about our dear friends. Great job Debby and Jan. ❤

  11. balroop2013 says:

    Nice questions Janice and Deb is such an expert in answering! I admire her spontaneity and courage. Stay blessed ladies.

  12. joylennick says:

    It was fascinating to read more about Debbie through Jan. She-s had quite a life, and entertained many by its telling! More power to you both! Thank you.

  13. Reblogged this on Smorgasbord – Variety is the spice of life and commented:
    Debby Gies ..D.G. Kaye is the guest of Janice Spina and shares the background to her books and hopes for the future. #recommended

  14. Lovely interview Debby and Janice… ♥

  15. Jane Risdon says:

    Fascinating interview and so interesting on many fronts. Know all about narcissistic personalities and the havoc they wreak. Good for you to rise up and move on. Tweeted and shared on Facebook. Good luck. Thanks Janice.

  16. Good interview, Deb! And it sounds like a great upcoming book. I have to agree–that change brought so many changes!

  17. Wonderful interview, Janice and Debby. I think I know a blogger pretty well and then learn more! I think that if Debby wasn’t a writer, she could definitely be a personal shopper or travel guide – both marvelous talents. Since I’m in the unending throes of a decade of menopause, ugh, the new book sounds like fun and much needed! Happy writing to both of you. 🙂

  18. A lovely interview, Janice and Debby. I really agree with Debby’s comments about good health. You can’t buy it and life is very compromised without it.

  19. Marcia says:

    Terrific interview with Debby! Really enjoyed it! 🙂 ❤

  20. Great interview, Janice, and Debby. It’s good to learn about the stories behind your books, Debby, and learn more about you also. I enjoy this interview! ❤ ❤

  21. Carol says:

    A beautiful i terview with the lovely Debby…whom I admire so much since I read her book on her childhood xx

  22. Chuck says:

    Great interview. I have followed Debbie for several years and read three of her books. In my opinion, her audience is primarily for females, yet the ones I’ve read had a great life lesson for either sex. I also enjoy following her political post and comments on Facebook. Go, Debbie. HUGS 😎

    • jjspina says:

      Thanks, Chuck, for stopping by. I agree, men could learn a lot from Debby’s books. 😆

    • dgkaye says:

      Hi Chuck! Thanks bunches my friend for your lovely words. I do try to keep it mild and limited on my blog – the political posts. But Colleen and I run a private secret group where more discussions and up to date news occurs. If you’d like to join our group, just let me know and I can invite you. ❤

  23. Jennie says:

    This was a terrific interview, Janice! Debby is one of the best. 🙂

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  25. Really enjoyed this interview, Janice. Debby’s books are on my radar, I need to make more reading time! Mind if I ask who does your fabulous covers, I love them!

  26. Reblogged this on The Showers of Blessings and commented:
    Please read this excellent interview of D. G. Kaye by Janice Spina.

  27. Debby, I’m glad to hear that your writing mojo has come back. Can’t wait to read your work in progress. ❤
    A great interview, Janice! xxx

  28. macalder02 says:

    I really enjoyed your interview. Very nice and says how much you are worth as a writer. With your answers you learn to value when you want to write. Finding your blog has been a hit. Greetings and follow the successes with your books. Undoubtedly, that is how it will be.

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  30. LOVE this interview. You are so wise and so caring, Debby. And look at how well you’re doing as an author–what an amazing journey you’re on. I agree with you about writing for the love of writing. That’s the part that is most fun anyway. 🙂

  31. Congrats on the interview, Deb. So nice to pop over and meet Janice. Great answers to the questions and of course, your library of published books is impressive. I’ve read many and will one day finish your complete collection. Your voice is powerful and your stories relevant to many of us. PASSION really does push us forward and you’re the perfect example of that. xoxo

  32. I just love your love of life, Debby. It doesn’t matter what you seem to be going through, your love of life always shines through. You’re such a positive person and this, in turn, rubs off on anyone you come into contact with. I only wish you were my next door neighbour. It’s people like you in the writing world, that makes it such a great place to be.
    Thanks for asking the questions, Janice. You’ve got yourself a great scoop with this interview.
    Hugs to you both.
    xx

    • dgkaye says:

      Aw thanks so much Hugh for your beautiful comment. You know me well, lol. I love to laugh and uplift others, inbred in myself since childhood to always try and make a crappy situation better – even if it means escaping into an imaginary world. Sometimes we all need that escape. And lol, I think if we lived close to one another we may not get enough work done. I should think you and I would constantly be trying to get a word in as we gabbed away. Hugs my friend. ❤ xox

    • jjspina says:

      Thank you, Hugh! I feel happy around Debby too! 💕😘🤗

  33. Hi again Janice, thank you for such a wonderful interview with our mutual friend Debby, I so much enjoyed reading it and I’m amazed, Deb, that you’re working on your next book! Wow! And here I am still plodding on with my memoir, 5 years…what the heck?…but it is going to edit in early November, rain or shine lol, the finish line is in sight, yay! I started my blog the same time I started writing bashing out the first draft, way back, ha, in 2013, and I know just what you mean about building your tribe and making amazing online friends. I’m so grateful to you for sticking with me this past year or so when I haven’t been able to blog anything like as much as I used to, or visit, with so much behind the scenes ‘stuff’ going on. I don’t get anything like the amount of ‘likes’ I used to, which I used to worry about, but I’ve found my tribe and my real online friends and those who want to read my blog just ‘cos, even if I can’t always get to theirs. And like you, Janice, I so much appreciated your visits as part of Sally’s travel archived series. Writing is a lonely profession, having strong online contact is vital. I’m not surprised your books reach males and younger females, Deb. You touch people’s hearts and experiences with your own and always with your wonderful insight and humour, so important. You have the personal touch in your writing, which is so important, and inspire us all, my friend. Thank you again to you both! 🙂 ❤

  34. Norah says:

    This is a great interview, Janice. I enjoy reading Debby’s work.

  35. So good to get to know more about Debby. She writes with such humour, insight, and compassion.

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